Couples Therapy

When couples come to therapy

• The same argument keeps happening, just wearing different clothes
• You've become excellent roommates and distant partners
• Trust has been broken — infidelity, secrets, financial betrayal — and you don't know if or how to rebuild
• Big transitions are straining the "us": a new baby, blended families, illness, immigration, career upheaval
• One of you wants closeness, the other wants space, and both of you feel rejected
• You love each other, and you're not sure that's enough anymore

None of this means your relationship is failing. It means the two of you have a pattern — and patterns can change.

How I work with couples

My couples work is grounded in attachment: the science of how we bond, and what we do when that bond feels threatened. Most gridlocked conflict isn't really about dishes or phones or in-laws. Underneath, it's usually a question one or both partners is asking: Are you there for me? Do I matter to you? When that question feels unsafe, we protest (criticism, pursuit) or protect (withdrawal, shutdown) — and each partner's move triggers the other's.

In sessions, we slow that cycle down until you can both see it. The pattern becomes the problem — not your partner. From there, couples learn to say the vulnerable thing underneath the sharp thing, to repair after ruptures, and to rebuild trust deliberately.

Curious about your own patterns? Learn more about attachment styles →

Every couple is welcome

I work with married and unmarried partners, 2SLGBTQI+ couples, interracial and intercultural couples, and couples navigating differences in faith, family expectations, or neurodivergence (including ADHD — see ADHD support). As a Black therapist, I bring cultural humility and lived understanding to conversations many couples have never been able to have safely in a therapy room.

Therapy here is a no-blame zone. My job is not to referee or decide who's right — it's to be on the side of the relationship, and of each of you as people.

Practical details

Couples sessions are 60 minutes ($245) or 85 minutes ($305) — many couples prefer the longer format, which allows real depth without watching the clock. In person in Etobicoke. See FAQ & Fees for details, or start with a free 15-minute call.